tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3237348067209954574.post4019421700156660002..comments2023-09-29T01:24:14.984-07:00Comments on india to appleton: When strangers ask questions | Part 1Peter and Nancyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10329947206142706470noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3237348067209954574.post-73912968544929515612012-05-29T20:26:14.684-07:002012-05-29T20:26:14.684-07:00I love the questions...most days. Having baby bug ...I love the questions...most days. Having baby bug is allowing us to learn to deal with these questions and our answers before our precious 7 (8 by then) year old son comes home and KNOWS what people are saying.<br /><br />Sometimes, I truly believe people don't mean what comes out... :)Joy in the Journey!https://www.blogger.com/profile/16953951607448195857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3237348067209954574.post-26247400610047531942012-05-26T16:59:33.649-07:002012-05-26T16:59:33.649-07:00Thanks so much for this, Nancy -- I cannot wait to...Thanks so much for this, Nancy -- I cannot wait to hear more!<br /><br />:) KarenKarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13777434348512209556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3237348067209954574.post-19262971539261391062012-05-25T17:09:29.397-07:002012-05-25T17:09:29.397-07:00I am half Indian and I have people who guess I am ...I am half Indian and I have people who guess I am Hispanic or Filipino all the time... Your daughter is beautiful! With living in So Cal, there are a lot of people who have adopted children so it is very interesting to hear your perspective on it. Thank you for the post![:Jennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08801701788502988956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3237348067209954574.post-55735513009811303802012-05-25T08:02:28.015-07:002012-05-25T08:02:28.015-07:00We have seen our way of responding change as the b...We have seen our way of responding change as the boys age as well. I was like you, "gently educating" for a long time, but as the boys are much more aware, and Max, like Anya, hates to be singled out for any reason, we shut down and give our "back pocket" answers much more. And like Heather, our answer to the sibling question has always been "yes."The Labonteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17024038216984694277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3237348067209954574.post-41148526339059743712012-05-24T20:23:12.002-07:002012-05-24T20:23:12.002-07:00Oh, Nancy....this is good. Thank you for taking t...Oh, Nancy....this is good. Thank you for taking the time to write it. I can't wait for the next one. I love that...intent vs. impact. I know for a fact that I wouldn't get mad at people for asking questions...I'm quite forgiving, and realize that people word things wrong, but totally don't mean it, so I am SO glad you wrote about how it's the impact on our child that is the most important thing when deciding how to answer. It will make me more bold...as opposed to my more normal "let things slide" attitude. :)<br /><br />Oh...and I laughed out loud at the check out woman thinking you were married to the beautiful dreadlock man. :)No Greater Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06839967583609256878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3237348067209954574.post-36855850202044621982012-05-24T18:27:34.773-07:002012-05-24T18:27:34.773-07:00Great thoughts! The intent vs. impact is such a co...Great thoughts! The intent vs. impact is such a concise way to keep in mind what I want my goals to be in these interactions. I still bumble around more than I'd like so any additional tools are welcome. <br /><br />Here's one I get a lot recently--are they siblings? (in reference to my 2 from India.) It finally occurred to me that "yes" is the right answer 99.9% of the time. <br /><br />HeatherHeatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12869542883275349451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3237348067209954574.post-73262530017074339642012-05-24T12:53:11.400-07:002012-05-24T12:53:11.400-07:00Oh this is so awesome, thank you! I want to be pre...Oh this is so awesome, thank you! I want to be prepared for how to handle this when our Princess comes home. I wonder, how do you deflect the whole "wow, what a lucky kid" responses people might have? What are good things to say to indicate that we the parents are so privileged to have been able to parent our child?Michehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09943079762244070030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3237348067209954574.post-38868160871787988412012-05-24T12:11:27.346-07:002012-05-24T12:11:27.346-07:00Thank you so much for posting this! Our first dau...Thank you so much for posting this! Our first daughter is now four years old, and like you, my responses to these questions from strangers (and others) have started to change. I am looking forward to your next post!<br />TeresaThe Baxter Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07697144702236291260noreply@blogger.com